Saturday, February 18, 2017

Single Diaries #2: Sexual Liberation

I am a 22 year old with a sex drive, and I have done alot to try to curb it.

First and foremost , I am a Nigerian and a Christian

From a the time I can remember, being a virgin and abstaining from sex is something that has been preached to me all my life. For the past 22 years, I have worked very hard at trying to reach this goal of waiting till my wedding night.

I remember being 10 and thinking of having my first kiss in front of the church . At 17, I promised to abstain from sex in front of my mother.

I am older now. I got into sexual activities based on my very curious mind. My parents wouldn't talk to me about sex so I searched the next best thing that I could possibly think of: The Internet. One day, I got caught and slapped to the core of my body and honestly that was one of the worst days of my life. I swore to never look at porn or read eroticas anymore.

But then I went to university and I was finally free. I struggled with that promise but I never stopped trying. In my 3rd year I began to live a little on the edge and started experimenting. I didn't have sex but I slowly stopped controlling my sexual urges. By 4th year, I still had restrictions but I stopped trying to experiment as much.

I have graduated now and honestly, I still try to control my sexual urges... But now I am definitely reaching a brink

I want to have sex... (there I said it)

As crazy as it sounds, I have an inner freak in me that is dying to to be set free. I want to try a lot of things. I want to be sexually free. I'm not trying to be a prostitute but I want to experience all the emotions and feelings that come with sex.

But I cant seem to let myself go. My boundaries always restrict me. I still haven't had sex. But a part of me is fed up.

One twin really wants to wait for the one.. get married and then have sex. But the other twin (I'm a Gemini) Wants to be a freak.. try things, be sexual and sensual. She wants to try it all. She is dying on the inside and she is begging to be let out.

But every time I come to this crossroad, I am constantly reminded about the price I'll have to pay. What if I start having sex and then because of my body count I never get married. what if the one finds me and decides to label me as a whore. What if all the amazing sexual experiences i have enjoyed unable me enjoy or get satisfied with sleeping with my husband.

And there's the other side, What if I end up cheating on my husband because I didn't fully live out my whoring days. what if I marry a prude person that isn't ready to explore their sexuality and I end up being stuck as the perfect wife.

22 is the time to have sex and not feel guilty. To be sexually active and enjoy everything that comes with it. I'm not trying to have sex with every Tom, Dick and Harry. I just want to have sex and enjoy the experience of loving my body and loving myself. I want to know what gets me excited and what makes me orgasm. I want to be sexual and not feel guilty about being sexual. I want to love being sexual and not be ashamed of it.

I know Love may not come with it .. and i may never find love once i start fucking guys. but i think i need t get to a place where I am OK with that. and to be honest if i was to get married today, i would still want someone that could match y sex drive and wouldn't make me feel ashamed for wanting to have sex or try new sexual adventures.

Saturday, February 4, 2017

Single Diaries #1 : Situtationship

I have been in a relationship or a situationship with an atheist.

I might still be in this situation but as of now it is to be determined.

We met about 3 years ago through my mutual friend who turned out to be his cousin.

I am struggling with this one mostly because my brain and my heart don't correlate.

I am a Christian (from the day I was born till the day I die) and I think I have partially fooled myself into believing this will work.

We are TOTAL OPPOSITES (apart from our religion) and I seem to struggle with our differences a lot.  We don't fight a lot because we try to "respect each others principles" but we can never agree on anything. I honestly feel like the reason we don't fight is because I tolerate his exuberance and I try not to do too many things that I like around him. I am always accommodating him but once I decide to do something I like, he completely ignores me.

This past weekend when he came over, we had a misunderstanding and normally I would apologize and try to work it out but he flat out left and so I think we are done now.

He would always say, "If I walk out of your door angry chances are I won't ever come back" .

I don't miss him, I'm just forced to face reality that I am single and I need to meet new people and find a man that makes me happy. I have been blessed by God with a great job, my own place and little credit problems. I remain thankful.

This is the beginning of my journey to my engagement  #LadyT2020

In the comments, Let me know, Would you date someone that is the total opposite of you? Do opposites really attract?

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

I'm Back

It only took 3 Years  for me to realize that I need to get back to blogging. I've been thinking about it for over a year and at first, I thought I'd start a new blog. Then I realized it wouldn't make sense.

I think its time for me to make a pledge to you guys:

I,  Lady T, solemnly promise to consistently blog for the rest of this year (atleast once a month) until I figure out my life.

I am no longer that girl from 2014. I now have a job, my own place and I am still hella single with a plan to marry or get engaged within the next 3 years. (I will be writing alot about this)

Why did I come back?

Because I love this shit!!!!!(pardon the french... I'm feeling grown now) 

I used to love reading relationship stories online , peoples personal journeys and its kinda died over the years. I'm not saying it will come back anytime soon but... Im going to work out my journey here for now.

This is definitely a lifestyle blog and Its going to entail alot of things I like. I apologize if it might seem not to have a direction for a while but I'm excited about this journey and I cant wait to walk this path with you guys.

Still a naijababe in a foreign land, Lets get to it!